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Welcome to this episode of The Place to Be Free Podcast.
: I’m your host, Martha Blessing.
I’m talking today about how do we heal from trauma.
And obviously, that’s not a question that is simply answered in one session of a podcast.
However, what I’m going to address here in the podcast is some questions that were sent to me by a reader and listener over on the blog at Martha Blessing.com.
Speaker B: And she had specific questions about healing, trauma and what her challenges have been.
Speaker A: Her challenges.
Speaker B: One of them have been that she feels that she does not know or remember what the traumas were that occurred and that happened to her because she was so young.
Speaker B: Specifically, she said not remembering the trauma because I was so young.
Speaker B: So it’s hard to identify or bring things up to heal.
Speaker B: I want to address that in this podcast.
Speaker B: First of all, like it or not, we don’t have to know what the trauma was.
Speaker B: That may sound silly, but if it’s abuse, if it’s physical, mental, emotional, sexual, whatever kind of violation happened against us when we were young, when we were children, people often say, oh, kids are so resilient, right?
Speaker B: Well, what really happens is and especially for many, many people who are empaths or highly sensitive people, we learn to bury the emotions and the feelings when that event occurs.
Speaker B: And not having a memory, a recollection of it does not mean that it cannot be healed.
Speaker B: What it means is that your conscious mind has blocked you from remembering it.
Speaker B: And it’s a very interesting thing.
Speaker B: When I was younger, about 18, I was in a car accident and my best friend who was driving was killed.
Speaker B: And I remember to this day, I remember none of it.
Speaker B: And all of the energy healing and all of the work and the things that I have done.
Speaker B: Even in dreams, I have never had a recollection of the experience that night.
Speaker B: And sometimes that’s to protect us.
Speaker B: However, that doesn’t mean that the feeling and the emotion isn’t stored within the tissues and the cells of my body.
Speaker B: And that is the part that we have to heal.
Speaker B: Now, if we have a recollection, if we do have a conscious memory of something or in the process, in our journey of healing, that memory that was blocked comes up to our awareness in our consciousness.
There are two points that are important here.
Number one is to allow and remove the emotions and the energy that is stored in the cells from the event.
That is one piece of it.
And again, we do not have to know what it is.
We can feel the experience.
We can feel the anxiety.
We can feel the pain.
We can feel the emotions.
This is actually where most anxiety comes from.
And that is the fact that there is an energy, a cellular memory that’s trying to get up and get out and be released.
And we’re too afraid to go through releasing it because we assume that the feeling is going to come out in the same way that it went in.
We’re afraid we’re going to reexperience the trauma.
That’s not actually what happens.
Secondly, secondly, where the actual healing occurs is not in healing the trauma itself, but in repattering and reprogramming the story that we have made up about what that event means to us.
What do I mean by that?
So I’ll use my own and my own examples because it’s familiar, right.
Speaker B: Having gone through abuse when I was younger, it wasn’t the actual abuse.
Right.
Like that event is over and done.
It’s what I’m telling myself about that and what I think and who I believe that I am as a result of that trauma.
So what do we typically do?
Well, we live in a world where we are taught and domesticated to believe in pain and drama.
We carry it from generation to generation.
We carry it from day to day, from year to year, from decade to decade.
How many people do we know that are still talking about something that someone did ten years ago?
The woman whose husband filed for divorce?
She’s still talking about it.
Granted, the divorce is not a pleasant experience, but it happened.
It’s over.
It’s done.
Now what is she telling herself?
Is she telling herself how unlovable she is?
What’s wrong?: Or could she see that?
Oh, my gosh, this happened for a reason and look at what the benefits are.
But no, what’s happening is the story is going into the mind is going into the story.
: And the loop about what that means.
Nothing actually has any inherent meaning except for the meaning that we give it.
And in this instance, when it’s abuse, we have a tendency to feel guilt and shame.
We bury that within ourselves.
We start to tell a story that we are unlovable or we are unworthy, and we play that story to ourselves over and over and over again.
Now in classic therapy, what happens is a person goes in and they just keep talking about the story.
They just keep talking about the event.
I will say there are many therapists now that are using EMDR and EFT, and they’re helping to release those patterns that are stored energetically in the body.
And that is where the healing occurs.
That is where the pattern can get broken to where we don’t repeat it anymore.
However, we have to change the story.
We have to change the meaning.
And the beauty of who we are is that we can be and are at choice in every single moment and in every single day about what it is we want to believe and what we want to choose to believe.
We are in control of our thoughts.
We get to choose our thoughts.
So even if we have told ourselves up until this point, that because the abuse happened and because I had a trauma when I was a child, that means that I’m not lovable and I’m not worthy of having healthy relationships.
We can choose to stop saying that and stop believing that.
We can choose to start to talk about the truth.
We can talk about our sovereignty.
We can learn spiritual laws and spiritual truth.
But the decision has to come first.
The decision has to come first.
Am I going to believe this about myself?
Am I going to continue to believe this about myself?
Or am I going to choose to find a new way to repattern this energy within my mind and my body and my heart and my soul?
So with this young woman, remembering the trauma is not the key to the way out.
Remembering what happened to her when she was so young is not the key to getting out of it.
It’s looking at what did she decide to make the story about that trauma and abuse?
And that is where the healing happens, where we repattern and reprogram in our conscious and subconscious mind what we believe about ourselves.
The second question that she asked was wondering how it is affecting her and her growth or lack of growth, trying to spiritually and personally grow, not knowing how the different traumas affected her.
Like how is this trauma affecting her growth and her current life?
This is related to what I just talked about.
And that is you get to choose.
You get to choose how any particular event is going to affect you.
You get to decide what you make it into or don’t make it into.
It’s a very interesting phenomenon.
Now, what happens is when we take 100% responsibility and we choose, then we have to be responsible for the outcome.
: We have to do the work every day to choose to change the story about ourselves and to look for the good.
And quite honestly, we are just not programmed in pattern from the time that we’re very young to do this, to believe in ourselves, we’re at the mercy of our caregivers, to provide for our safety.
And so we make agreements about what we will do in order to get that sense of love and safety and security.
And that is where we have to look at what agreements did I make because of this trauma?
Chances are this is something that has been handed down from generation to generation to generation because what else can it be?
If we don’t know anything different, we can’t learn anything different.
: We can’t model anything different.
We can’t teach anything differently.
That’s the only thing we see as normal.
And so it takes the repattering and the reprogramming in each and every moment to undo that story.
You catch yourself in the moment.
Oh, I see.
That was a story that I created about an event, about how full of shame I should be and how unlovable and how unworthy I am.
Is that the truth?
No, it’s not.
It’s just a story.
And the story is there because we needed to make an agreement with our caregivers or our teachers or clergy or whomever had the power and the control to keep us watered and fed and safe and protected.
: But we are not those little children anymore.
And so we can choose differently.
We can choose differently.
Very interesting.
This idea and this phenomenon.
And I can share with you an experience that I had in my own personal life.
When I was diagnosed with this rare cancer.
I knew that I was holding anger and resentment within myself from when I was younger and not even that much younger, but just previous years, like when I was in my twenty?
S and thirty?
S and things that my mother had said and done.
I can remember them like it was yesterday.
And I attached a meaning to them about who I thought I was.
And so I knew that I was holding these patterns of energy and resentment and anger.
And I knew that that obviously can cause cancer.
And so I was determined to let them out.
And I was determined to confront her.
So I called her on the phone to ask her to tell her actually these things that had been bothering me for all this time.
And what was so fascinating was she said to me, Are you sure that you didn’t dream this?
Because I didn’t ever do that.
I don’t remember that.
So here I was with an eye opener for me in my healing journey.
Because here I was all these years, holding this pattern, holding these thoughts, holding this anger and resentment.
She was living happy and free.
She was not burdened by any of it.
She didn’t even remember doing it.
So in the moment, she was acting unconsciously from her own story, from her domestication and her patterns and projecting them towards me.
And I took them, I accepted them, and I integrated them into my story.
It was a big awakening.
It was a big awakening moment and awareness to see that I was holding on to something that I didn’t need to hold onto.
I could choose to change the belief about those events, that she didn’t love me, that I was unlovable.
It had nothing to do with me.
It really, truly had nothing to do with me.
That comes into the four agreements by Don Miguel Roaz.
I’ll leave a link in the show notes for that on the website.
But the second agreement is to don’t take anything personally.
And so she was having her own experience and her own anger and projecting it at me and it had absolutely nothing to do with me or who I am or my soul or my heart or what I came here to do and be.
You can begin to see these patterns and understand that they are nothing more than cellular memories and energetic patterns that are being held in your body.
Energy, healing, EFT.
For me, it was mantras and energy and using sound and vibration to release them, but they can be released easily without having to do a lot of mental energy.
And this is where, like I said, I’m not trying to distherrate and professional therapy, but it does keep you stuck in your head and the memory and the trauma and reliving and talking about it over and over and over again without creating a new pattern for what it is that you really want to choose to believe.
And then secondly again moving the energy out of the body so that we don’t feel it.
And that’s how we free ourselves up from the pattern of being stuck in our heads and not feeling in our bodies.
Our bodies are incredibly intelligent and they know how to be healthy and they are intuitive.
And when we shoot out of our bodies energetically Because we don’t want to feel the pain, we also can’t feel our joy for life and living.
We can’t feel our life force and we can’t trust ourselves and our intuition Because our intuition is our feeling body.
It’s intuition in our body. And so that’s why people have such a hard time Where they will continue to give their power over or give their power away to other people.
That’s what we’ve done in medicine.
I’m going to give my power away to the doctor Because I don’t trust myself.
I can’t feel my emotions.
I can’t feel my body.
And especially with anxiety and depression and taking the pills, it only proliferates the problem energetically.
So the answer is to get back into your body energetically and to feel and to process what you’re feeling and use your intuition to build your own inner strength and core and courage and power.
Once again, if you’re not sure how to do this and you’d like some guidance or some help, Please reach out to me@marketblasting.com and I’ll see you in the next podcast.
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