Welcome to this episode of the podcast.
In this episode I’m talking about the second of the five steps that are the methodology that I use with coaching clients and in my programs end courses.
it’s part of the foundation that no matter where you are in life, or what it is you want to change, this second step is pivotal helping you get where it is that you want to go.
And it may seem like a no-brainer, and it is, however so many people misunderstand, or avoid this step all together, when they are trying to transform their lives.
So what is it what am I talking about? it’s clarity. the second step in creating change, in creating transformation from the inside out, whether it’s Health, well-being, career, being an entrepreneur or creating a business, improving relationships, like those are the three biggies, right?
If you haven’t listened already to the last episode 17, you’re going to want to go back and listen to it, where I talk about the first step, Getting to the cause. And work on the transformation takeaway from that episode.
The second step is to get crystal clear on what it is you want. Now , like I said, I know that sounds ridiculously simple, but, stick with me here because I want to explain and show you why it’s so important and also, what most people do, when they think they have clarity, but they really don’t, and it has them stuck in doubt, fear, and uncertainty, and it ultimately sabotages their results, and sends them into a negative tail spin that they have a hard recovering from.
A lot of times, most of the time, when people reach out to me for help, their emails, or messages are several paragraphs long. They will tell me a story about how they tried, or started to make a change in their life. They were feeling excited and empowered and confident that they could make it happen, on their own, and then when success didn’t Arrived in whatever way they had anticipated or expected, they find that all areas of their life start to go downhill.
Or they have the perception that this is what happened. what actually is going on here and why clarity it is so important, when I talk about clarity, What I’m asking clients and people to do and for you that are listening is take some time to get quiet and still, first of all.
And Clarity from the mind is different from Clarity from the heart. so when I asked people to start practicing a Stillness practice it’s not about quieting the mind it’s about getting into your heart and getting into your body and in your feelings so that you can into it what it is your heart and your soul really wants.
Now for a lot of people that is completely different than what their mind will tell them. and why is that? because most of the time when people are asked what is it that you really want they can’t actually answer that question.
And I’ve noticed this especially when I get these types of emails that are several paragraphs long and they’re going on and on about where they were and what happened and what went wrong.
And then I’ll ask him what is it that you do want what would you like help with? in what they’re really wanting is to know or to understand or get clarity about where did I go wrong what did I do wrong how come I got these results instead of the results should I want it.
But when I asked him what they want oh, when I asked them if they had all the time in the money in the world what they would be have and do, they often can’t answer they can’t tell me.
So that’s the first problem, where the first step is getting still long enough, getting into your body, into you’re feeling, energetic body and heart and soul…
because there is something in you that wants to come out of you, that is as I say, planted or placed in you, that only can come from you, and we don’t know where that’s going to take us. where that’s going to lead us, most of the time.
Now what’s so interesting is that when I ask people this question what what do you really want? most of the time people will start searching in their mind searching in their head trying to over effort with their thinking oh, and what they’re doing is they’re searching for some kind of a familiarity oh, some type of a program that is what they think they could do or what is a probability, based on some experience they’ve already had in their life.
So many times they are not truly answering this question with what it is that they really really really want. They are answering it according to what they think is possible and that is going to be based on programs and patterns in their subconscious mind.
And this is where the conflict starts between the mind and the soul and the heart and the spirit.
A perfect example of this Is young woman who reached out to me after a year’s time and when we got to talkin part of the conversation was she had pretty much decided that she was going to, or needed to leave her marriage. it had got into a really bad point and place it was very dysfunctional and she can see that she is a repeating a generational ancestral pattern.
But, she said well I figured I would wait 5 years till my kids were older. now that’s not unusual it’s not uncommon for people who are considering breaking apart a family. And I don’t mean to minimize this in any way it’s serious stuff not to be taken lightly but she’s already contemplated it. in her mind she’s already decided she’s going to do it she’s just waiting for the right time the right moment.
What she really wants is to leave now. that’s what her heart and her soul wants she does not want to keep going down this spiral of negative emotions and constricting her energy and her life force dealing with this toxic situation. but she’s qualifying it with the fact that she feels like it’s not possible from a financial perspective. she’s in fear she’s in doubt she’s in worry and her subconscious mind and patterns are telling her you can’t do this you won’t be safe.
now if you’ve listened to any of the other podcast you’ll know that the law of cause and effect is in action at all times as is the law of polarity. what she wants is actually already here and it’s possible for her.
That she really wants is to build her business and private practice, she is a registered dietician. And what she really wants is to build that business and make a good income for herself doing work that she loves, and be able to support her family her kids. And to leave her marriage and have herself and her children be healthy away from this environment.
Now what’s interesting is that she has a pattern going. She has an unconscious was conscious now but she had an unconscious pattern going based on a core wound from childhood oh, that she got from her mother who felt that she was dependent on a man on the husband to be the breadwinner, and so this girl can’t see her way past that identity because it’s been ingrained in her.
What’s critically important as I said is the clarity. What is it that you really truly want not what you think is possible. because when you follow that when you admit to yourself what you really truly want when you have clear day for that, then you can actually put these laws of cause and effect and polarity in action to benefit yourself. To bring you into alignment with what it is you actually want and desire.
If you don’t get clarity, if you don’t have the courage to admit to yourself what it is really truly want, then you will continue to stay in a pattern and repeat the same sabotaging actions in your day-to-day life. You will keep living and repeating the sabotage patterns from the core wound in the subconscious mind that you got when you were a child. From your parents.
When you do get clarity from your heart, then you can actually use the universal laws and your energy your physical mental emotional and spiritual energy and vibration and frequency to become the person who is aligned with what it is you desire.
And yes oh, of course there will be things that will come up that you will need to unpack and change and transform, but once you do that oh, you build more and more belief and faith and confidence in yourself, and the idea that the universe is actually on your side and supporting you to have it.
You’ve heard me say this before being is first cause. So in this example if this gal is being someone who feels that she cannot go out and make a good living on her own and take care of herself and her children oh, that the universe is on her side oh, and that it wants what she wants, that God Source intelligent substance wants her to express what’s in her heart and soul as part of her purpose for being here, then she is going to have particular thoughts. Which is what she’s doing which is what she’s having. she is being that identity she’s being that program that subconscious pattern in programming oh, and from that comes thoughts I better keep it safe or I better wait a few years to the kids are grown, it’s about Safety and Security and survival, because her belief is she can’t do it on her own she needs this man to provide for her.
And from that place because she has his underlying core belief and core wound oh, no matter what action she takes, to build a business or practice it’s not going to be successful because she has to fail in her eyes oh, so that she can keep this identity and the story and belief and pattern alive.
This is why Clarity is so important. You have to have the courage to admit to yourself what it is that you really want. So that you can see and start to visualize the path towards it, and set yourself up for what it is that you want to have happen.
If you can’t be brutally honest with yourself about what it is you really want, you will never give yourself the opportunity to break through these patterns that are stuck in the subconscious.
Now they might have served you as a child, but as an adult they no longer serve you in any way they’re holding you back.
So your take away from From this episode oh, your transformation take away it’s just been sometime getting into your heart getting into your feeling body oh, and being honest with what it is you really truly desire. That’s the first step right at down get a notebook get a journal. Start to build the vision for it exactly how you want it to be and how you wanted to go.
Because here’s the thing, the universe is always saying yes and it can only bring you what you ask for. if what does kale really truly wants is to leave now in to build her business and to get moving forward and building her life if she doesn’t ask for that she’ll never get it. if that’s what she really wants but she only thinks or believes that it can happen five years from now and I kids are older that’s what she’s going to get.
And this is what our mind does. It Bargains and it rationalizes, but it’s all coming from these old stories and identities that are rooted in fear and unworthiness and not good enough. and let me tell you I have been through this. I’ve been there like so deep in it. I get it.
When I was in it, it seemed nearly impossible that I would ever get out of it, an end up and be where I am today. I am so deeply deeply grateful to God, Source,, intelligent substance, my mentors, my failures or, my apparent failures that led me further on the path to freeing myself and achieving success.
there really is no failure, it’s just recalibrating and fine-tuning, and out of the apparent failure just comes more and more light and growth, quite honestly. But when you’re in it, you can’t imagine or believe, or see that it is going to land you in a place of success and Higher Achievement, into transformation and living your path, and your purpose, and light.
I like to tell people when it comes to this idea of getting crystal crystal clear about what it is that you want, think of it as going to Starbucks or wherever you get your coffee oh, and you walk in to place your order. What you really want is Venti latte, right? that’s what you really want. but then you start thinking about all I shouldn’t have this and I shouldn’t have that and I shouldn’t do this and I shouldn’t do that maybe if you’re cutting back on caffeine or whatever. so you tell yourself that you don’t really want the venti latte or you shouldn’t have the venti latte for whatever reason, and you decide I’m just going to order a tall coffee. when you step up to the counter and order the tall coffee that is exactly what you’re going to get. you’re not going to get the venti latte that you’re dreaming about because we are asking for is something else and this is exactly how the universe works. You can’t dream about having a business and supporting yourself and being happy and serving from your Soul’s purpose and Destiny I’m being abundant and Worthy, and then place your order of I need to just stay in this toxic marriage for five more years.
do you see they can’t line up? it’s the same as ordering a cup of coffee.
You have to be clear on what it is you want. What you want is already here and you can have it because it is already here. But you have to be clear. And you have to hold on to that clarity and not settle. Because if you settle, the universe is always saying yes and it will bring you that.
So take some time this week to get into stillness, get into your heart, and feel into what it is that really wants to come out of you. What you really desire to do with your energy and your life.
And if you have tried this in the past, and you feel like you’re struggling with any part of this process. Please reach out to me, I am happy to help you with this.
Also, in case you didn’t know, my online course and group mentoring teach you how to do these exacts steps and build a solid foundation to transform your life from the inside out. It’s the foundation I used myself to go from living in daily chronic pain and being broke, and addicted to prescription narcotics, to owning a wellness center, being a published author and then building an international coaching business.
It’s the foundation for healing and achieving success in any area of your life that I have taught to my clients. And if we can create lasting transformation in our lives…so can you because God/source didn’t give us , more than he gave you. You have what you need inside you already, I promise you. And I am here to help illuminate your path to where you want to go.
If you want help with building your intuition and trusting your self and your energy, if you want to create more peace of mind and being able to tap into your heart’s energy to create the life and wellbeing you desire, you can check out my course Unlock the missing piece. I’ll leave a link in the show notes and resources on this podcast episode page on the website at Marthablessing.com When you take any of my courses you get free access to my monthly group mentoring and Live Q and A calls on zoom. So I can support you to transform your life.
In the next episode, I’m going to be talking about the third step, which is clearing the old patterns, programs, and beliefs that are getting in the way of you moving forward. I’m going to be digging deeper into how do we clear and create new energy, new frequencies that align with who we want to become.
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